Starting the Conversation: Supporting Your Child’s Mental Health

October 10 marks World Mental Health Day, an important reminder that mental wellness is something we can model and nurture every day—at home, at school, and in our communities. As parents and caregivers, you play a crucial role in helping children understand what mental health means and how to talk about it.

Mental health isn’t just something we talk about—it’s something we show. Children are remarkably tuned in to what we say and what we don’t say. Our tone, our body language, even a disappointed sigh over a grade can send strong messages. Modeling balance and perspective helps children understand that mental wellness is about managing life’s ups and downs, not striving for perfection.

Remind your child—and yourself—that balance is key. It is okay to miss a practice, skip a homework assignment, or take a break in order to connect with a friend or family member. Those moments of rest and joy are just as important as achievement.

Helping Children Find Their Trusted Adults

As children grow, they may not always turn to their parents first when facing challenges—and that’s okay. What’s most important is that they have someone they feel comfortable confiding in. Talk openly with your child about who those trusted adults or friends might be, and remind them that you’re always there for the “big things.”

Creating Space for Connection

Sometimes, the best conversations happen in the simplest moments—on a car ride, around the dinner table, or during bedtime routines. To make the most of these opportunities:

• Create a “No Phone” norm at the table. Eliminate distractions and model attentive listening.
   
• Ask open-ended questions and give your child time to respond (aim for at least five seconds of quiet before jumping in).
   
• End the day with reflection questions, like:
  • What was the best thing about today?
  • Who was at your lunch table?
  • What’s something you learned that surprised you?
  • How did you help someone today?
  • What’s your “rose” and “thorn” of the day?

You may find that the most meaningful talks happen when you least expect them. If your child seems hesitant or puts up a wall, pause—and revisit the topic later. Often, they’ll come back to it on their own once they’ve had time to process.

Supporting Everyday Wellness

Good mental health is built on daily habits. A consistent, predictable routine helps children know what to expect each day, which can greatly reduce stress. Make sure your child is getting enough sleep, nutrition, and downtime—these are the foundations of emotional balance.

Finally, remember to share your own wellness practices. Whether it’s a walk, journaling, or a moment of quiet, being honest about how you care for your mental health shows your child that it’s a normal, lifelong priority.